我喜歡的SM專欄

偶然發現這本線上的搖滾生活雜誌（雜誌名稱也取的很有意境，叫做：『Backdoor後門』），裡頭有個有趣的專欄，『安全語』，專門討論BD+DS+SM的有趣觀點呢。因為寫的實在太好了，完全點出toy的心聲，忍不住想要翻譯一下最喜歡的兩段內容，要是翻的不好就請看原文吧。

Does it make you wet as winter to have your partner crawling on her/his knees with a collar round her/his neck and obey your every command and whim? Or does it make you lose the plot with a capital ‘P’ to be redeemed by being the receiver? What makes you tick and tock? What lies asleep in your most sanctified vault? Thinking about this and understanding this will aid you better on your sexual exploits because you will know what vehicle you are steering, know its power, its limitations, strengths, weaknesses and at the same time help you understand your partner and his/her wants and needs. This is something many who are in relationships forget. Sometimes we rant and complain about so many things that we forget to listen – because even the sound of silence can speak a thousand words. We forget to observe and pay attention to the right things. People are backward to come out in the open with their true desires, feeling intimidated or anxious that they will be judged or face prejudice, or even be misunderstood.

當你知道你的伴侶頸上正繫著項圈跪在地板上服從你的每道指令跟念頭時，會讓你變得濕潤嗎？或著相同的情節但讓你心醉神迷的角色是成為跪在地板上的服從者？什麼能讓你的心底騷動？什麼沈睡在你最秘密的心中角落？思考和了解這些，都能使你在你的性生活上如虎添翼，因為就像駕馭一輛車必須了解它的性能、長處、缺點一樣，了解你伴侶的需要和幻想才能做最好的發揮。這點很多身陷在情侶關係中的人都常忘了。有的時候我們嚷叫、抱怨許多事情卻忘了聆聽，而即使是最寧靜的聲音卻能說出無限的話語。我們忘了觀察與注意對的事情。在面對心底深處最真實的慾望時，人們總是會退縮、害怕表達，甚至常被誤解。

By engaging in BDSM I believe that you will begin to understand the meaning behind every smile, the colors and nuances behind every giggle, the way the light dances in the vortex of your partner’s eyes, you will know tears of joy from tears of sorrow, you will know the scent of fear and anxiety, the thrill of having someone who is arrogant and absolutely a control freak melt like wax in the crux of your palm. Every sigh will be a whisper, silence will be the sweetest sound you hear and pain & pleasure will be a shadow by your side. A burning halo while you crawl on shards of glass in your sublime tunnel. Who needs a light at the end of the tunnel when you know you are in good, capable hands right?

從進入BDSM的生活起，我相信你會開始了解每個笑容背後的意義、每種顏色和笑語之間的細微差異、察覺你的伴侶眼眸中跳動的光線變化、你會透過悲傷的淚水領悟什麼是喜悅的哭泣、你會懂得面對焦慮惶恐、會因為知道有人能以無上的權力掌控你而顫動的如同蠟燭融化在你的掌心一般。每道嘆息都會是低聲細語，寧靜會是你聽過最甜美的聲音，而痛與愉悅會像你的影子般如影隨形。當你知道自己在漆黑的隧道中爬過那些玻璃碎片，感受著火燒般的疼痛時，有一雙堅強有力、能全心交予的手在背後引領守護著你，哪還需要隧道盡頭的那盞光明呢？

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