Rules 談BDSM遊戲規則

文｜主人

I've talked before about the meaning of BDSM, and the breakdown of the letters. But beyond that, the simplist form of bdsm is the dom and the sub. Without them the concept of bdsm has trouble being a reality.
我在這裡談過BDSM各自所代表的意義，但是簡單來說，沒有主/奴的話就根本沒有實踐BDSM的可能。

But is this relationship as clear as we think it is? I personally tend to think so, and it's all because of one little word.....the safe word! Y'know, that one word that any sub can use at any time to stop everything. The emergency switch of the bdsm world.
而主/奴的關係是複雜是簡單呢？對我來說是很簡單的，之所以能夠單純，完全是因為主/奴關係全建立在一個字之上。那個字就是『安全語』。這個字使奴能在任何時候終止這場遊戲，一個緊急的密語，將主奴從SM的世界切換回真實的世界。
It's this word that I think is the most important part of bdsm, and at the same time it flips our understanding of the traditional dom sub meaning.
我認為SM世界中最重要的，就是這個『安全語』，同時，這個字也扭轉了我們所認知的傳統主奴關係。
We understand that the dom in bdsm is the one with the power, the control. But do they really have control? The sub can stop the dom at any time with the use of the safe word! Ultimately it's the sub who has the power and control in a bdsm relationship because they can stop it at any time.
在SM當中，主人是擁有、掌管一切權力的，但是他們真的有控制權嗎？雖然奴交出了對自己身體甚至是意志的所有掌控權，卻只有奴能在任何時候選擇使用『安全語』！這麼想的時候，奴反而是擁有一切權力的人了，因為他才是能決定何時終止這場SM遊戲的關鍵人物。