30 Apr 2015

瘋狂的不負責任幻想


打麻將的時候如果沒有一點背景音樂
好像太過於寧靜!?
偏偏他們家裡又沒有電視
連個音響也沒有
這該怎麼辦呢?
幸好他們有個女孩可供閒置
拖來一張和麻將桌等高的小桌子
將女孩放上桌
成跪姿四隻著地綑好
後方架上炮機
對準小穴設定好
就有背景音樂啦
既有噗嗤噗嗤的濕潤的聲音
也有女孩嬌嗲的喘息聲
女孩的馬尾被綁在後方的繩子上
被迫抬著頭
這樣三不五時牌友們還可以轉頭
看看她臉上的可愛表情

最好有兩個這樣的閒置女孩
這樣漫長的打麻將午後
就一點也不會無聊了

他們的日常


在下班前,她乖乖去廁所塞好球球
脫下內褲塞進口袋,離開公司
到了約定的地方與主人碰面
手牽手買了晚餐check in 進motel

主人將她放在床上
要她自己把雙腿抱成開開的姿勢
讓主人一邊配晚餐一邊欣賞她塞入球球的pussy

洗澡前主人幫她脫衣服
只是輕輕被主人溫熱又粗糙的大手摸摸耳朵與tits
全身就像被電到似的起了雞皮疙瘩
連皮膚都如此喜歡感覺到主人

接下來的一整個夜晚
不斷地在主人的手中經歷高潮
因為一直在巔峰下不來
或著是一直在就要達到的前一刻卻達不到
所以根本就數不清楚
高潮的次數
可她是喜歡這樣的身體的
被主人在股掌間
恣意地探索與玩弄

(photo from http://www.google.com.tw/imgres?imgrefurl=http://www.araquebelagua.com/zachary-relationship-items/protect-your-bdsm-community.html&tbnid=rVZ-5lvrfPr1oM:&docid=aKHskCx7lNA9mM&h=237&w=238)

【轉載&翻譯】六種損毀主奴關係的S常犯錯誤 (第三條--總是為他們找藉口)


 莉莉絲

3. 總是為他們找藉口 當一個m因為疏忽而非刻意犯錯時,S總以為自己也必須負擔部分責任。覺得m的疏失必然也是自己的疏失,我想這對於任何一個領導者來說都是蠻正常的想法 。「或許我沒有將我的期待與規則對她充分闡述清楚?還是我沒有提供她足夠的訓練呢?」我們總願意相信自己的m是百分之百的投入,跟我們一樣想要表現她最好的一面。這樣的想法讓我們習慣為m找藉口,甚至為了她的錯誤而責怪自己。我們都想要對自己的m有信心,但是對她的越舉睜一隻眼閉一隻眼或著是活在對自己的否定當中,都不是正確的方式。你應該要讓你的m理解,規矩不是由她訂的,即使不是故意犯錯,她都必須承擔該有的後果。

你應該這麼做

如果你的m因為粗心大意、一時疏忽而犯錯,一定要給予適當的矯正。並且對她解釋她哪裡做錯了,確定她理解自己接受處罰的原因,才不會讓她感覺不公平或不合理。如果她並非因為疏忽或粗心大意而犯下明顯的錯誤,且對你誠實以告,那麼這時處罰或許就不需要,你應該和她一起坐下來討論這件事,確定她明白下次該怎麼做。目標永遠是避免她因為忽視犯錯的原因,而一再犯下相同的錯誤。許多時候,你知道她因為自己讓你失望,已經流下眼淚,看起來好像她已經充分對不當的行為自我處罰了,但是就像先前所陳述的,當情況是應該要給予處罰時,請毫不猶豫的執行,


3.  Always Make Excuses for Them – When a submissive makes a mistake or breaks a rule perhaps not intentionally but out of negligence, it is always a temptation for a Dom to feel partly responsible.  I think is quite normal for a Dom like anyone in a leadership position of any kind to feel that he has failed too whenever a subordinate fails.  Perhaps I didn’t communicate the rule or expectation clearly enough or  I didn’t do an adequate job of training her.  We want to believe in our submissive and feel like she always gives one hundred-percent effort and does her best.  This can lead us to rationalize, to make excuses for her, perhaps to even blame ourselves and take upon ourselves the responsibility for her mistake or error.  While we all want to have confidence in our submissive girls, turning a blind eye to their transgressions or living in denial is not the answer.  You must make your submissive understand she is not above the rules and that even unintentional mistakes when due to negligence have repercussions.
What to do instead: If your submissive makes a mistake due to carelessness, negligence, or purposely disregards a rule or to meet an expectation, take the appropriate corrective action, impose discipline if it is warranted.  Do explain what she did wrong and make certain she understands why she is being disciplined so she doesn’t end up feeling you are being unfair or unreasonable.  If however, she makes an honest mistake, a situation where she was neither clearly carelessness or negligent, then perhaps instead of discipline just sitting her down and talking it out may adequately take care of the situation.  The goal is always to keep her from repeating the same mistakes over and over regardless of what the causative factors were. Oftentimes, just knowing she has disappointed you might reduce her to tears and it can seem that she has punished herself enough for a misdeed.  But as mentioned earlier in the discussion about corrective discipline, don’t hesitate to use it when a situation clearly calls for it.

迫不及的人就先看看原文吧。

29 Apr 2015

【轉載&翻譯】六種損毀主奴關係的S常犯錯誤 (第二條--沒有管教 )


 莉莉絲


2. 沒有管教 如果m爬到你頭上、試圖挑戰你訂下的規則、沒有達成指令與期待,或說了做了不被允許的事情,你絕對不能姑息或當做沒事。缺乏規矩在一個主奴關係裡常是源自於將伴侶視為老婆或女朋友而非m的關係。要管教你所愛的對象很難且甚至你自己都厭惡如此做,這是很自然的,所以很多S即使是在被充分授權之下都不願實施應該為之的矯正行為。他們自我合理化訂定規矩是負面的行不通的,他們的m一點都不需要規範。殊不知這將會培育m相信自己的壞習慣不會產生任何不良後果。

這種情形會導致主奴關係中更嚴重的問題。就像孩子總愛用行為來挑戰大人訂下的規範與界線一樣,m也是如此。建立一個清楚的界線反而能讓大多數m感覺到她們需要的安全感與被保護照顧的感覺。很多時候她們爬到S的頭上並不是真的意圖不軌,而只是想要確認自己還是確實的被S管教照顧著。所以如果缺乏對不恰當行為的對應後果,好與壞的界線就會模糊或不存在,而m則會開始感覺不安與不被保護。

你應該這麼做

替你的m訂下清楚而一致的規則與後果。確定她真的了解你的期待,知道自己哪些該做哪些不該做,怎麼樣的行為是合宜的。當她越界的時候你需要馬上站出來給予適當的矯正與處置。不一定都要是對身體的處罰,當然有時候這很有效且不費時,但是如果你的m很享受被打屁股,那打屁股就不是一項非常有效的處罰。取消一項她很享受的特權在這種情形下就相對的有效多了。記得和她說明清楚,確認她了解自己因為自己的壞行為而受到對應的處罰,不要處罰過了頭。要確認該處罰對於犯罪行為來說是合適與恰當的。


2.  Don’t Discipline – If your submissive acts out, breaks the rules, fails to complete a chore or assignment according to your expectations, or says or does something disrespectful, you can’t overlook it and do nothing.  Lack of discipline in a dominance/submissive relationship often stems again from seeing your partner more as your wife or girlfriend than as your submissive.  It is quite natural to find it hard and even to loathe having to discipline someone you love, so many dominants are disinclined to administer corrective discipline even when it is clearly warranted.  They rationalize it by convincing themselves that discipline either is a negative thing that doesn’t really work or else that their submissive doesn’t need it.  This fosters in a submissive the belief that there are never any consequences for bad behavior.
That kind of situation can lead to serious problems in your relationship.  Just as children thrive with boundaries and rules of behavior, so does a submissive.  The need to have firmly established boundaries is something most submissive women need to feel safe, secure, and protected.  Many times they will intentionally act out not because they just feel like misbehaving but to test the boundaries to make certain they are still firmly in place.  In the absence of consequences for bad behavior, the line between good and bad can become blurred or seem non-existent and a submissive can start to feel insecure and unprotected.

What to do instead: Set clear and consistent rules and consequences for your submissive.  Make certain that she clearly understands your expectations as to what she is to do and how she is to behave.  If she acts out you need to Dom up and mete out appropriate corrective discipline.  It doesn’t always have to be corporal punishment.  That can be effective and timely but some submissive women enjoy things like OTK spanking and so in such cases using that for discipline wouldn’t be very effective.  Taking away a privilege she enjoys can be in such cases much more effective.  Do remember to talk with her and to make certain she understands why she is being disciplined and don’t go overboard.  Make certain the punishment fits the crime.
迫不及的人就先看看原文吧。

28 Apr 2015

【轉載&翻譯】六種損毀主奴關係的S常犯錯誤 (第一條--予取予求)


莉莉絲

收一個m,是沒有隨附使用說明的,同樣的,也沒有人天生就是完美的S (支配者)。你可以閱讀許多關於SM生活型態的書籍,或著是和別的S討論,以及參加一些SM活動。但是你仍難逃心底那個絮絮叨叨的聲音,認為自己還是無法做的完全到位。


或許你已經有很多訓練或事後的安撫『該如何做』的教戰守則,但你是否暗自希望還有一份『千萬不要做哪些事』的教條呢?是否有時候覺得自己已經做到最好,卻還是不夠完美呢?一起來看看這六條,小則寵壞m,大則可能損毀主奴關係的S常犯錯誤吧。

1. 予取予求-- 無論你的m想要什麼,她總是能夠隨心所欲。

或許是她網路上發現的最新情趣玩具、或許是讓她略過一次她真的非常討厭執行的日常任務、或著是養成習慣給她所有她想要發生在自己身上的調教。給她所有她所要求的,就像是在養成一隻被寵壞的、放縱的、嬌生慣養的小鬼。她很快就會學到永遠可以利用情緒操控你,進而得到自己想要的一切。當然在一個D/s關係裡,S會愛上m是很常見的,這件事本身也沒有任何錯誤。我個人絕不會想要擁有一個不能給我任何理由愛上的女孩當m。你必須對抗的危機是,當你將彼此的關係視為平等的兩人間一種浪漫安排時,自己就會屈從於動態的權力交換了 。結果只會導向一個膚淺的、冷卻的主奴關係,最終無法再滿足任何一方。偶爾讓她的需求獲得滿足絕對沒有錯,獎賞她提供的好服務、有時候做些讓她開心的事。但是,一個m同時也需要隨時獲得提醒,讓她記得自己是誰、以及自己在這段關係中扮演的角色與地位。

     
      你應該這麼做

把讓她擁有她垂涎的最新情趣玩具,或著放縱她享受一個她特別喜歡的床上活動,當作是她最近為你完成,值得你稱讚的事的獎勵。讓她覺得自己是以付出來贏得這項獎勵的。這麼做可以阻止她發展出掌握權力的感覺,並且灌輸她一個牢不可破的理解她並不擁有你,而是你擁有她。這能幫助她發展她的服從性。



A submissive doesn’t come with an instruction manual and there’s no such thing as a perfect dominant. You can read every lifestyle book you can get your hands on, talk to other Doms, and attend lifestyle workshops.  Yet you can still be left with a nagging feeling that you don’t always get it exactly right.
Perhaps you know lots of the DOs when it comes to the training and care of a submissive but have you ever wished you had a list of the DON’Ts? Even if you think you’re doing your best, sometimes it might not be enough. Take a look at this list of six sure-fire ways to spoil your submissive.

Six dominant mistakes that will spoil your submissive and can ruin your relationship.

1.  Give in – No matter what your submissive wants, she gets it.  Whether it’s that shiny new sex toy she found online or letting her off the hook for that chore she just really hates or making it a habit to give her all the things she wants done to her, giving her everything she asks for is the breeding ground for a spoiled, indulged, and coddled brat who will soon learn that she can always get her way by manipulating you with her emotions.  Especially in D/s relationships, it isn’t uncommon for a Dom to fall in love with his submissive.  There isn’t anything wrong with that.  Personally I wouldn’t wish to own a girl who didn’t give me reasons to fall in love with her.  But the danger you have to guard against is subordinating the power exchange dynamic by treating your relationship more as a romantic arrangement between equals .  Doing so creates a lukewarm, superficial dominant/submissive relationship that in the end won’t likely satisfy either of you.  There is nothing wrong with granting her requests occasionally, rewarding her for good service, and doing those little things she enjoys that make her feel happy from time to time.  However, a submissive also needs regular reminders of who and what her position and role in the relationship is.


What to do instead:  When you agree to let her have that new sex toy she is coveting or to indulge her desire for that special activity in the bedroom she really likes, link it to something she has done recently to please you.  In other words make it a reward for good service and let her feel she has earned it.  Doing that will prevent her from developing a sense of entitlement and will instead cultivate in her a firm understanding that she doesn’t own you, you own her.  This will help her grow in her submission.

迫不及的人就先看看原文吧。

27 Apr 2015

只有簡單,才能帶來意義與美好


生活,有的時候太過沈重
躲開複雜紛擾的世界
我們隱身在SM的關係裡頭
想要的
無非是一種單純的可能
回歸最簡單的模式
以最原始的觸碰帶來身體的反應
最直白的指令對應可預期的動作
放鬆全部的自己
用五感去體驗
再延伸當中的奇遇
與更深層的自己對話

最重要的不是活著,而是活出美好。──柏拉圖

而SM ,
就是我想要的
那種美好

19 Apr 2015

被守護的屁股


主人說:「趴下的時候,記得要把背壓低,這樣屁股才會噘高。」

主人一邊說著
一邊把她的背往下壓
屁股就順勢翹高了
等會兒這個屁股
就會被好好的拍打以及可能粗暴的使用
但現在
它會先被溫柔的呵護與對待

(photo from http://molot.deviantart.com/art/Hey-Daddy-521166245)


16 Apr 2015

圈養



低下頭
露出脖子
等待主人將項圈套上
項圈之於她
有著安定的作用
帶上項圈與牽繩的她
不再迷惘
不再不安
心甘情願的
被主人駕馭
在被剝奪自由的同時
獲得內在的滿足

主人總是懂得
用最適合的方式
珍惜與愛她

(photo from Sir R's Playground 3)


11 Apr 2015

被氣球入侵的身體


小小的氣球塞入了她後面的小穴
她希望自己可以努力的放鬆,好迎接它的進入
卻事與願違的更加緊張
不過主人還是把氣球順利塞入了
完全進入後,她聽見充氣的聲音
小穴裡頓時感到充實
原來自己的小穴,是可以容納氣球的
或許主人眼中的她此時可愛極了
可是她對於自己的認知,卻是既狼狽又羞恥的
低下頭的她
正好可以看見垂在自己兩腿間的那條充氣幫浦與管子
搖晃著像是在提醒著她的羞恥
她搖著頭想要甩掉腫脹與疼痛的不適感
可是卻無法甩掉主人對自己身體的操弄
發抖、扭動、啜泣、忍耐
是她僅能做的
被氣球入侵的身體
是主人的
不再屬於她




10 Apr 2015

充電


他停下手邊的動作
要我清楚地說出自己的需求
並請他執行
羞恥的話對我來說非常不容易說出口
但他辦到了
用了許多的提示與引導
一字一句
要我開口拜託他

「主人,請打我。」
馬上,臉頰上就感受到很真實的粗暴
而且,
不只一下
他打到我流下眼淚
即使無聲
他都能知道
撥開了我的一頭亂髮
他給了我用心的親吻與擁抱

從自己迷亂的眼神當中
我看見也同樣為了我們之間的化學作用而微醺著的主人
他總是堆著滿滿的笑意
回望著我
在我被高潮造訪的時候

離去前
被整隻丟進衣櫥
在小小的一方空間裡
盡力保持著主人指定的姿勢不敢亂動
雖然聽得見主人在外頭收拾東西的聲音
卻仍有被放置不管的不安感
直到主人打開門
用溫暖的親吻與厚實的擁抱掃去方才營造的焦慮

這樣一個夜晚
他沒有進入我
卻為我重新注入滿滿的能量
讓我足以面對明天的一切困難

只是我像是個衰退中的鋰電池
這一次與下一次需要的充電
間隔時間越來越短暫




4 Apr 2015

在氧氣流失的分秒間,她如此感覺


「吸氣。」主人交代,
在主人再度把手掌覆蓋在她唇上之前,
她趕緊深吸了一口氣,
然後靠著體內儲存的氧氣
忍了一段時間
直到氧氣流失殆盡
她的身體捲曲起來
開始為了呼吸而掙扎

主人沒有放手
反而摀的更緊了些
她脆弱的抓著主人
感到痛苦難受
卻又心甘情願


(photo from http://londonalternativemarket.com/wp-content/gallery/november-2013/lam-scratch-co-november-2013-50.jpg)

3 Apr 2015

It's show time!




她喜歡
從一個養眼又安全的角度觀看
看眼前攤開著的男男與女女
擺出一個又一個慾望的姿態
晃出一屋子情慾的氣味

她可以非常沈默好像自己不存在
有時候又好像自己是一個旁白的角色
圈著重點
下著註解
偶爾按下停格倒帶
幫忙喬幾個姿勢
順一下最契合的體位

這是一場
只演給她一個人看的
華麗的show!

(photo from http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m2pqgjneeF1qh4eeho1_500.jpg)


1 Apr 2015

練習


在興奮中恍惚著,
她覺得自己貪婪、崩壞
總有過多的擔憂與懷疑
讓她不敢直視他
或許是不想看見他眼中的自己
卻又好奇的低頭想像著自己此刻的表情


待會兒高潮來臨的時候
務必要認真地看向主人
她默默自我期許著
這是主人給的指令
要用力練習




這是一個慎重的位置



你,佔據了我今天的行事曆。

(photo from https://plus.google.com/communities/104758304305360880791/stream/e75ec6ce-7a39-44ec-a377-e0252866ed9e)

淘氣


你像一個貪玩的孩子
而我總會在你每次玩累轉身之時
給你最溫暖的微笑
替你擦拭滿身的汗水
然後你一定會眨著大大的眼睛
給我深深地一吻
陶醉地說:
「我好愛你。」

(photo from https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/236x/c9/0f/58/c90f58ef9f3de35915885e270f7fce2c.jpg)