6.不夠投入
在非必要的時候選擇超時工作而非準時回家晚餐、在m沒有做錯事時急躁的對待她，或著很顯然地忽視她，這些都是不夠投入的例子。一個m需要感覺到自己的價值。她需要被保證她是令她的S愉悅且有用的。她需要在不變的管教下藉由取悅與服侍主人，來表達自己的順從天性。而這麼做的她，該贏得值得你注意、尊重與投入情感的權力。被忽視的話，一個m就無法感覺到安全與被保護，她可能會因此變得不滿足、不快樂，甚至憂鬱起來。
你應該這麼做
即使你有無數的工作或其他雜務等待你完成，絕不要忽視你的m或著是這段關係。切割出固定給她的時間，一起看部電影或是允許她陶醉地謙卑地待在你的腳下。允許她性感地取悅你。她需要你的投入。她需要你教導她什麼是她該做的，以及她該如何做到你的期待。更重要的是，她需要你不忘記提醒她，自己的真實角色—你的寶貴持有物。
6. Not Being Engaged – Choosing to make a habit of
working late when you don’t have to over getting home regularly in time for
dinner, being irritable or short with her when she has done nothing wrong, or
just plain ignoring your submissive are all examples of not being fully engaged.
A submissive woman needs to feel valued. She needs reassurance that she
is pleasing and useful. She needs a consistent conduit through which she
can express her submissive nature by obediently serving and pleasing her Dom.
Her gift of submission earns her the right to feel you consider her worthy of
your attention, respect, and affection. A submissive can’t feel centered,
safe, and protected if neglected. She is likely to become dissatisfied,
unhappy, and even depressed.
What to do instead: Even if you’ve got a packed work schedule or
other matters that require your attention, don’t neglect your submissive or the
relationship. Aim to schedule regular blocks of time dedicated to
her. Watch a movie together and allow her to revel in occupying her
humble place at your feet. Allow her to pleasure you sexually. She
needs your engagement. She needs you to teach her what she must do, how
she must behave, and most importantly she needs you to remind her who and what
she really is, your valued possession.
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