5. Set a Bad Example – Some days a submissive may not feel all that submissive and likewise some days a Dom doesn’t feel like exercising dominance. That is just human nature but as the leader, the guiding force in the relationship, a Dom just can’t ignore his responsibility to provide guidance, supervision, and training just because it has been a hectic week at the office or he has a lot of other things on his plate and feels tired. Just as you have expectations of your submissive like following rules and meeting needs you have, she has needs to be met and expectations of you as well. You should always strive to lead by example. Not living up to your responsibilities to her and the relationship sets a bad example. If you don’t fulfill your responsibilities on a consistent basis, if you don’t keep your word, if you make excuses, if you talk the dominant talk but don’t walk the walk, your actions will speak louder than words. You’re wrong if you think your submissive isn’t paying attention. If she senses you don’t take your responsibilities seriously she is likely to mimic your behavior if exposed to it frequently.
What to do instead: Resolve to be a model example in front of your submissive. Don’t let competing interests prevent you from addressing the needs of your submissive and from giving the relationship the consistent attention it deserves.