Original by: Jessica Cocker 翻譯：莉莉絲
5. 建立壞榜樣
有些時候m可能覺得一點都沒有順從的意願，同樣的，有些時候S也不想要擔任支配者的角色。這是人性，但是身為一個領導者，帶領著這樣一段主奴關係，你必須負起自己的責任，提供監察、引導、訓練，即便這週的工作如此緊張忙碌、或著是生活中有其他事情正在發生使你倍感疲倦。就如同你對於你的m有著期待與需求，你的m也對你有著期待與需求。像是你應該總是積極引領。如果辜負了你對她的責任，就是為這段關係設下了壞榜樣。如果你無法一貫性的負起你的責任，如果你不能做到許下的承諾，如果你為自己找藉口，如果你只是光說一口S的話語卻不練，你的行為將表現出你是怎樣的人。如果你以為你的m不會注意到，那你就錯了，如果她時常感到你不嚴肅看待自己的責任，那麼她終將也會模仿你的行為。
你應該這麼做
在你的m面前立下一個好榜樣，不要讓其他的事暫停你身為她S的責任，給予這段關係所值得的，一貫的注意力。
5. Set a Bad
Example – Some days
a submissive may not feel all that submissive and likewise some days a Dom
doesn’t feel like exercising dominance. That is just human nature but as
the leader, the guiding force in the relationship, a Dom just can’t ignore his
responsibility to provide guidance, supervision, and training just because it
has been a hectic week at the office or he has a lot of other things on his
plate and feels tired. Just as you have expectations of your submissive
like following rules and meeting needs you have, she has needs to be met and
expectations of you as well. You should always strive to lead by
example. Not living up to your responsibilities to her and the
relationship sets a bad example. If you don’t fulfill your
responsibilities on a consistent basis, if you don’t keep your word, if you
make excuses, if you talk the dominant talk but don’t walk the walk, your
actions will speak louder than words. You’re wrong if you think your
submissive isn’t paying attention. If she senses you don’t take your
responsibilities seriously she is likely to mimic your behavior if exposed to
it frequently.
What to do instead: Resolve to be a model example in front of your
submissive. Don’t let competing interests prevent you from addressing the
needs of your submissive and from giving the relationship the consistent attention
it deserves.
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